Thursday Thoughts: If life has taught me anything, it’s this…



#MondayMotivation – Knowing the art of love

I found someone who was brave enough to enter my storm. Someone who no matter how much it rained and how big the waves were he still managed to find the calm. Love guides you to your missing piece much like the ocean finds the shore. The sun will always set just as it will rise each morning, the heart is much the same, it has its destiny – it will always lead you to the person youre supposed to be with and nothing can come in between that. Life creates a balance of happiness and sadness – its how you handle the sadness that determines your strength. Love does the same. There is happiness and there is sadness, but the true importance lies in how you deal with both. How you fight through the storm to get to the beautiful blue sky that will always appear. Love is an amazing feeling, a tornado of emotions – it can be beautiful but ugly, strong but deadly and loving but hurtful all at the same time. If you’re lucky enough to find someone who will stick by your side, support you, put you first, know your insecurities and lift you back up, then you can never truly be unhappy.

The art of life is knowing the beauty of love. They say you can’t choose your family, but my family is him. summer_love_wallpaper_rjtz3

#THURSDAY THOUGHTS: Love has no boundaries

Sometimes you might go through struggles, the feeling that you’re alone trying to fight a war that has already decalared its winner, but as with life, the battle is only as tough as you make it. If you let people make your decisions for you or try to influence you then whose life are you really living? We should respect the opinions of others, listen to them, understand them and use them, but that’s where it ends. No matter who the person is or what their opinion is it shouldn’t determine what your outcome is. For me, love is the most powerful and inspirational thing I can have and be blessed enough to have. So to listen to the opinions of others on the relationship I have or the love I choose to have is something I have learnt to throw to one side and leave it there.

People will always have their perception of what they think you should do or what they think will happen but in no way should that become a factor in your decisions. Society said same sex marriage was wrong, does that mean we should listen? No! Love is what we want it to be; love has no colour, no gender and no barriers. We only get one chance at this life, so do we really want to waste it worrying or feeling abandoned by society? That we haven’t continued to follow years of tradition that should never have even been important enough to have lasted as long as it has? The answer is and will always be NO. Tradition is just that, it’s one generation’s idea that has surpassed its years. It’s time for a new tradition, it’s time to create our own traditions and be the first generation to really know what it’s like to be free and living for ourselves.

Remember love has no boundaries – No race, gender, culture, religion, or language.

The more one lusts; the less one loves

Why do people fall out of love just as quickly as they fall in love? Maybe it’s just this generation, but seems like people just don’t put the effort in anymore, and like magic the whole relationship disappears with no struggle to keep it together. Therefore, whats left is a destruction, nothing but a memory blowing away in the wind.

They say love conquers all, but if that was true then love would defeat any obstacle that stands in its way. Love would beat the odds for two souls doing all they can to become one. Love would be enough to keep people together no matter what storm they may face. However, if love really did conquer all then how could the thought of love for many be more important then actually being in love itself? Where the whole relationship becomes nothing more than a reflection of something it could have been. If a love is worth throwing away after years of being together then what chance is there for a happy ending? Yes relationships are hard, yes they need work but what most people neglect is to realise it takes time. Absence diminishes only small loves, not true love.

But how do you know when its over? When you’ve put more effort in trying then the other person or perhaps when you’re more in love with the memories then the person standing right in front of you? Either way it seems we are looking for something that doesn’t exist, a love that could never happen. Maybe that is the reason why we give up so quickly and maybe that is the reason why we are such an impatient generation. We want and we want but we forget what we truly need and deserve. A representation of true love seems as adequate as the love itself.

Therefore, what I am still trying to figure out is maybe we don’t actually fall out of love but merely lose sight of why we fell in love in the first place. True love is eternal, and if you are blessed enough to experience it then it could never truly depart. How could it, if you look at the word eternal itself its a forever feeling. So, maybe our memories become nothing more then ghosts that haunt us beautifully whenever the thought of our past is brought up. But one thing is evident, the fear of not experiencing love is far more terrifying than keeping your heart locked up everytime the possibility is right in front of you.

“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.” – plato

The world needs love letters

ImageTelling someone how much you love them and how you feel is something which many people forget to do. It is the little things that matter the most and mean so much more than anything expensive or any gift. Love isn’t about how much you spend on someone or how extravagant the gesture is, love is about the sweet memories and true words you show to that one special person. Anyone can spend money to impress someone, but the feelings that are expressed through words in a love letter have true meaning, they take time to be perfected and most of all it comes from the heart.

What happened to romance?  I feel our generation has forgotten the true value of romance and what it really means to do something special for your true love. The soppy long love letters that melt your heart and pull at the heart strings seem to have disappeared. We don’t tend to write love letters anymore, we spend our time expressing our feelings over messages which for me doesn’t have the same impact as a hand written personal letter.

Although it is seen as old fashioned and something which was done more in the past, it is the most loving and honest way to tell someone how much they really mean to you.  You can express all your feelings and say exactly what you’re thinking and do it in a way that is special to both yourself and the one you’re writing to. A love letter can express what you may not be able to in person, it’s like a poem that has a personal touch and each word you write means something amazing to the both of you that could warm the heart.

It’s something the person you love can keep and read over to remember that moment, that time and that feeling you and they had when they first read it and you first gave it to them. There is something special about opening a letter, you see that person with their words, their handwriting and you can imagine each breath they took between each sentence.  It can bring a smile to their face, a tear to their eye and happiness that shines like no other.

It’s not easy to write a letter or to always express everything you want to say but it doesn’t need to be perfect, it just need to be real. It doesn’t even have to be long unless you’re a poet deep down and can write pages of romance. As long as it’s personal and comes from you then that’s the important part. So, if you’ve never written a letter before or even received one then why not pull out your pen and paper and write a love letter. Even I was thinking about the one I love whilst writing this. So just remember…

Be sweet, be romantic, even be a little cheesy, but be you.

Not another love story

ImageWe as women are in love with the idea of being in love. We spend a long time in search for the ‘perfect’ guy that we forget to just take a moment to focus on the present and let Mr Right find us. I used to be one of those women that wished for a fairy tale romance, someone to come along and just sweep me of my feet and take me away into the sunset without any question of looking back. I spent a few years in search of finding a guy that would treat me like I deserved to be treated and be proud to have me as his girl and wasn’t afraid to tell the world. What my journey of finding true love taught me was, you can’t look for love because if you do then you end up jumping into something that may not even be love, but instead lust because you’re so determined of wanting the feeling of love.

I have had my share of unworthy men that looking back now didn’t even deserve my attention, my time or my heart. Men that were there to pass the time as I tried to find something deeper and more real, I didn’t understand this at the time, and I don’t think most women do. Women love hard, women give their hearts to men that don’t deserve it, women spend hours and days crying over someone that doesn’t deserve their tears and eventually realise there is much more out there then what they have allowed themselves to believe.

So, my story begins here. I was in search for that thing, that unexplainable moment, that kiss that could light up your whole world and make you forget everything around you but just the two of you. A feeling of being scared but excited at the same time, a feeling of thinking maybe this was the person you are meant to kiss for the rest of your life, and maybe just maybe feeling what true love was for the first time.

Then the unexpected happened once I stopped searching for romance and ‘that thing’ I was so determined to find, it found me. I had my unexplainable moment that I had been dreaming of, and it happened so quickly. However, it wasn’t just your typical boy meets girl love story; I found love in the strangest yet sweetest way. I fell head over heels after being reunited with my junior school class mate. I never saw it coming, he never saw it coming, and neither of us knew what had just happened. What started as a friendship which was reconnected after 12 years, turned into something beautiful, something that felt so natural and crazy at the same time.

It is an unconditional love that took over both our hearts. Although it took a while before we made it official there was no question that we knew we had something special that was worth holding on to. Not even John Hughes could have written a more perfect love story than this. Just like any romantic love story or chick flick, we had both ups and downs but every bad thing you go through with the one you love, in the end makes those good things that much greater. It makes you appreciate every moment that much more and feel blessed that you have someone to go through even the bad times with.

This is not just another love story, this is my love story. I didn’t go looking for love, love happened to find me and it couldn’t have happened at a better time. This whole time we were in each other’s lives in one way or another but I guess fate wasn’t ready for us to fall in love just yet.

So this is what I have learnt; we as women search for perfection, that happily ever after which never lives up to what we hoped it would. We expect too much and give too much, but maybe we should stop dreaming of prince charming and live in the now, as we could miss what is in front of us for something that is not real. My love story has been written, we are spending our second valentine’s day together and as cliche as it may sound, cupid did a pretty good job. However, if you are still searching for your Mr Right, just remember love happens when you least expect it. But if you can’t wait until then, there is always Mr right now to fill the time.