Their eyes speak words of truth

The eyes speak words of truth that the mouth sometimes cannot. They let you see into a persons soul and understand themDeeper than a conversation would allow. The purest of hearts are often the ones that don’t speak loud but their actions are loud enough for the world to see. Often it’s the ones that communicate through passion and love that have the most honest story to tell. The ones who sit their quietly, not uttering words with every breath usually have the most to say. Understanding one expression can convey emotions that the verbal language tends to hold back. If you know someone deep enough to know their every feeling, every thought and every action before the words leave their lips, then you are lucky enough to have found a connection so rare and so pure. A connection that embodies you spiritually and not just physically. A connection that binds two souls, and only those two souls, that cannot be put into words. You are lucky enough to know that person at their purest form, the part that speaks directly from their heart to yours.

To the sensitive souls…

The kindest of hearts are usually the most sensitive. The genuine souls are usually the ones that have hurt the most. They give their whole world to the person that lets them in. They will welcome you with open arms, and trust your every word. However, if you destroy their confidence, lose their respect or break their heart, they will forever put up a wall and shield their heart from you. They are tortured souls, searching for kindness from those who deserve it. They are not able to control their passion, their love is often misunderstood for weakness. This type of person needs the most compassion, they need a love that will guide them back to their happiness. They often shine bright, but their light is overpowered by the darkness that fills their spirit. Despite any struggles they go through, they remain genuine and pure. They become leaders for those who have been broken. And, no matter how much pain they have suffered, how much their heart has been broken, they will accept you and trust your intentions. They are birds, ready to fly, and when loved they spread their wings so beautifully and soar across the sky.
– Aida P 

SOUTHPAW – A ‘phenomenal’ story of a fighters rise back to the top

movies-southpaw-trailer-stillA story about courage, determination and passion, SOUTHPAW follows the life of Billy “the great” Hope (Jake Gyllenhaal), the reigning junior middle weight boxing Champion and his rise back to the top after tragedy strikes and he hits rock bottom. Losing his lavish lifestyle, his family and his home, Billy soon finds an unlikely savour in Tick Willis (Forest Whitaker), a former fighter who now trains amateur boxers from the neighbourhood. Although Tick doesn’t form a friendship with Billy straight away, as the film progresses a bond starts to build between the two, much like Rocky and Apollo Creed in Rocky 3. Seeing the struggles and the hunger Billy has to get back in the ring and get his daughter back, Tick offers to train him and help regain his title, set to a classic fight montage with Eminem’s song ‘Phenomenal’ playing in the background.

Much like other boxing films, there are a few clichés that are usually obvious within this genre. However, unlike most boxing films, Southpaw really focuses on the back story of the character and his family. It’s not your typical rise to the top boxing film, but more a comeback story and the passion and love one man has not only for boxing but for his daughter, that helps him win his life back.

I’ve seen many boxing films, and the more modern ones tend to lack heart and emotion. What I mean by that is, although great films and beautifully made, they don’t have that emotional attachment to them as some of the classics, such as, Rocky (still one of the greatest films of all time). Southpaw, for me, has that. It offers not only very realistic fight scenes, but it also takes you on an emotional journey that you can almost put yourself in Billy’s shoes. It’s a metaphor for fighting for what you love, fighting through your struggles and fighting for happiness. Whether you like boxing films or not, Southpaw is definitely worth watching, it will capture your heart and take you on a rollercoaster ride with a great soundtrack also.

Jake Gyllenhall gives a riveting and heart-wrenching performance that deserves all the praise and recognition he gets. His chemistry with Rachel McAdams, is definitely what makes the audience feel compassion for his character and really understand the love they have for each other. Captivating performances from the whole cast that carries the film to a whole new level.

Too fake to be real: Is contouring misleading to men

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These two photo’s posted on instagram collected a lot of likes but also hateful comments, many of them about the perception of female beauty. In the before shot, the girls are make up free. You can see the differences in their face shape, eyebrows, nose and cheek bones. In the makeup shot everything is more enhanced. The difference is so great, that in fact, many have commented they feel ‘tricked’, not just by those girls but by many women who wear ‘too much make up’ or use contouring as a way to change their features.

Again and again, commenter’s have stated about both girls that “she looks like a different person.” And a statement like that – especially when talking about beauty – has a weird impact on what is actually seen as beautiful or attractive. To me, they look beautiful either way, with or without all that make up. It’s a real test to our society in fact, if a man see’s a woman in full make up and finds her attractive, then see’s her as she is naturally and doesn’t find her attractive, does that say more about him as a person or more about ‘society’s views on beauty.

Some have even said that this can even be deemed as deceitful. That a woman is hiding her true self underneath all that make up. That she is not just enhancing her natural beauty but completely changing it. I agree to a certain point, yes contouring can change your appearance and features and a woman should flaunt what she already has and not hide it but i don’t think it’s deceitful. That’s a strong word. If you think about it, make up is fashion, it evolves, a woman wearing blue eye shadow or bright red lipstick doesn’t suggest the obligation to present ones ‘real self’ but more of a statement of fashion. So is that deceiving? Her eye lids are not actually blue and her lips are not that red but we don’t see it as being ‘tricked’ into thinking they are. So, why should contouring be any different? It’s make up, it’s a statement, it’s fashion after all.

Some men have said that a woman would feel ‘deceived’ if they started doing the same thing, making them appear as if they have a more defined jaw line, a narrow nose, or no imperfections at all. Regardless of what you thought about the person. They feel that women see them for who they are so why can’t they get the same in return? They’re right in that they should know what the person looks like and see their true beauty but appearance shouldn’t be a deciding factor of whether you choose to be with someone.

But historically – woman have always used make up as a means of making themselves more attractive to those they’re trying to meet. Cleopatra? With makeup, a woman can present all the alluring traits men find attractive, high cheekbones, plump lips, flushed cheeks. Everything deemed beautiful in society. However, makeup is just one of the masks people wear, and the most common; it’s not part of us, it doesn’t define us, and it’s important to remember that. If it’s a way to make you feel good about yourself than I’m all for that, but if it’s just a way to get attention then I don’t see the argument.

It all comes down to what you as an individual deem as authentic. If you want to see a woman’s imperfections (because we all have them) or want to know what’s real, then yes, it can be a form of deception. There is nothing wrong with playing dress up now and again, but when do you stop?  However, If you embrace the less natural look, then you’ll prefer a woman as shown in the picture on the right.

Make up isn’t used for your own personal pleasure anymore; many women use it as a way to attract others, platonically or sexually. It’s used to draw people in, deceitful? Maybe, but the real question is this: Do people have an obligation to present themselves authentically (in appearance) to someone they are trying to attract? Or maybe if we weren’t living in such a judgemental and superficial world then people would be more comfortable in their own skin.

What do you think? Is it misleading?

The more one lusts; the less one loves

Why do people fall out of love just as quickly as they fall in love? Maybe it’s just this generation, but seems like people just don’t put the effort in anymore, and like magic the whole relationship disappears with no struggle to keep it together. Therefore, whats left is a destruction, nothing but a memory blowing away in the wind.

They say love conquers all, but if that was true then love would defeat any obstacle that stands in its way. Love would beat the odds for two souls doing all they can to become one. Love would be enough to keep people together no matter what storm they may face. However, if love really did conquer all then how could the thought of love for many be more important then actually being in love itself? Where the whole relationship becomes nothing more than a reflection of something it could have been. If a love is worth throwing away after years of being together then what chance is there for a happy ending? Yes relationships are hard, yes they need work but what most people neglect is to realise it takes time. Absence diminishes only small loves, not true love.

But how do you know when its over? When you’ve put more effort in trying then the other person or perhaps when you’re more in love with the memories then the person standing right in front of you? Either way it seems we are looking for something that doesn’t exist, a love that could never happen. Maybe that is the reason why we give up so quickly and maybe that is the reason why we are such an impatient generation. We want and we want but we forget what we truly need and deserve. A representation of true love seems as adequate as the love itself.

Therefore, what I am still trying to figure out is maybe we don’t actually fall out of love but merely lose sight of why we fell in love in the first place. True love is eternal, and if you are blessed enough to experience it then it could never truly depart. How could it, if you look at the word eternal itself its a forever feeling. So, maybe our memories become nothing more then ghosts that haunt us beautifully whenever the thought of our past is brought up. But one thing is evident, the fear of not experiencing love is far more terrifying than keeping your heart locked up everytime the possibility is right in front of you.

“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.” – plato

Fear is a burden; let it go

“Destroy the fear in you before the fear destroys the life before you”
-R.M Drake.

In the year to come, let go of those who hurt you. Leave behind any grudges that you may have had and learn to forgive the sadness that you felt with those that walked away. For they too are hurting. Take the pain and tears you felt and wipe them away as you build your path of the road ahead. Dont look back and have any regrets, look back at all the struggles as a guidance to the achievements you want to have. Look at your mistakes as a lesson, for those who dont make mistakes arnt truly living. Take each moment, each breath and each day as a blessing. It may not have been an easy ride but it was another day lived and that alone is an accomplishment that will bring fire to your soul.

So take the new year as it comes and welcome it with open arms. Don’t waste a day just existing, embrace it and live it to the fullest. The heart should be free to enable all its beauty and love, so dont let it settle in a cage. Take the new year as a new experience. Don’t be afraid to do what you were once scared to; think with your mind, be kind with your heart and dream with the dreamers.