Monday Motivation- we are our own worst prison

 

We poses the ability to be who we choose to be, to love whom we desire to love, to learn all that we are capable of learning and to create from the wildest of our imaginations to the deepest of our conscious dreams. We are our own worst prison, trapped in our own fears that keep us from achieving what we are destined to achieve. If we do not let our fears destroy us, then we can forever be free.

– Aida M.images

Thursday Thoughts – Live in its beauty and feel its generosity

When it’s real it can’t be broken. It won’t just fade away like a rainbow after a storm or the sun as the night draws in. When it’s real, it’s here to stay. It’s not there one minute and gone the next. It will stay with you until the last words you speak and the last breath you take. There is no hesitation when it comes to true love, it’s as real as the air we breathe and the touch we feel. It may not always be stable and can get a little hard at times, but the real lies in whether it sticks with you through everything, the good and the bad. It may be the reason you’re hurting or why you’re insecure, but it’s also the reason why you care so much and why your heart feels warm. Nothing compares to this feeling, no amount of money and no amount of worthless attention can amount to the happiness you feel by loving someone and being loved. Never compare it to others; never have expectations of what it should be, just live in the moment with each other. Live in its beauty, and feel its generosity. Treasure it like it’s the most precious thing in the world. Nurture it so its grows and speak only words of kindness. The reason why old flames burn out is because they were never meant to last forever. The flame starts off strong, but eventually withers down to its last flicker. A new flame, if taken care off properly and loved beautifully, can last a lifetime in each other’s hearts. For when it’s real, it will never burn out.

Their eyes speak words of truth

The eyes speak words of truth that the mouth sometimes cannot. They let you see into a persons soul and understand themDeeper than a conversation would allow. The purest of hearts are often the ones that don’t speak loud but their actions are loud enough for the world to see. Often it’s the ones that communicate through passion and love that have the most honest story to tell. The ones who sit their quietly, not uttering words with every breath usually have the most to say. Understanding one expression can convey emotions that the verbal language tends to hold back. If you know someone deep enough to know their every feeling, every thought and every action before the words leave their lips, then you are lucky enough to have found a connection so rare and so pure. A connection that embodies you spiritually and not just physically. A connection that binds two souls, and only those two souls, that cannot be put into words. You are lucky enough to know that person at their purest form, the part that speaks directly from their heart to yours.

SOUTHPAW – A ‘phenomenal’ story of a fighters rise back to the top

movies-southpaw-trailer-stillA story about courage, determination and passion, SOUTHPAW follows the life of Billy “the great” Hope (Jake Gyllenhaal), the reigning junior middle weight boxing Champion and his rise back to the top after tragedy strikes and he hits rock bottom. Losing his lavish lifestyle, his family and his home, Billy soon finds an unlikely savour in Tick Willis (Forest Whitaker), a former fighter who now trains amateur boxers from the neighbourhood. Although Tick doesn’t form a friendship with Billy straight away, as the film progresses a bond starts to build between the two, much like Rocky and Apollo Creed in Rocky 3. Seeing the struggles and the hunger Billy has to get back in the ring and get his daughter back, Tick offers to train him and help regain his title, set to a classic fight montage with Eminem’s song ‘Phenomenal’ playing in the background.

Much like other boxing films, there are a few clichés that are usually obvious within this genre. However, unlike most boxing films, Southpaw really focuses on the back story of the character and his family. It’s not your typical rise to the top boxing film, but more a comeback story and the passion and love one man has not only for boxing but for his daughter, that helps him win his life back.

I’ve seen many boxing films, and the more modern ones tend to lack heart and emotion. What I mean by that is, although great films and beautifully made, they don’t have that emotional attachment to them as some of the classics, such as, Rocky (still one of the greatest films of all time). Southpaw, for me, has that. It offers not only very realistic fight scenes, but it also takes you on an emotional journey that you can almost put yourself in Billy’s shoes. It’s a metaphor for fighting for what you love, fighting through your struggles and fighting for happiness. Whether you like boxing films or not, Southpaw is definitely worth watching, it will capture your heart and take you on a rollercoaster ride with a great soundtrack also.

Jake Gyllenhall gives a riveting and heart-wrenching performance that deserves all the praise and recognition he gets. His chemistry with Rachel McAdams, is definitely what makes the audience feel compassion for his character and really understand the love they have for each other. Captivating performances from the whole cast that carries the film to a whole new level.

Too fake to be real: Is contouring misleading to men

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These two photo’s posted on instagram collected a lot of likes but also hateful comments, many of them about the perception of female beauty. In the before shot, the girls are make up free. You can see the differences in their face shape, eyebrows, nose and cheek bones. In the makeup shot everything is more enhanced. The difference is so great, that in fact, many have commented they feel ‘tricked’, not just by those girls but by many women who wear ‘too much make up’ or use contouring as a way to change their features.

Again and again, commenter’s have stated about both girls that “she looks like a different person.” And a statement like that – especially when talking about beauty – has a weird impact on what is actually seen as beautiful or attractive. To me, they look beautiful either way, with or without all that make up. It’s a real test to our society in fact, if a man see’s a woman in full make up and finds her attractive, then see’s her as she is naturally and doesn’t find her attractive, does that say more about him as a person or more about ‘society’s views on beauty.

Some have even said that this can even be deemed as deceitful. That a woman is hiding her true self underneath all that make up. That she is not just enhancing her natural beauty but completely changing it. I agree to a certain point, yes contouring can change your appearance and features and a woman should flaunt what she already has and not hide it but i don’t think it’s deceitful. That’s a strong word. If you think about it, make up is fashion, it evolves, a woman wearing blue eye shadow or bright red lipstick doesn’t suggest the obligation to present ones ‘real self’ but more of a statement of fashion. So is that deceiving? Her eye lids are not actually blue and her lips are not that red but we don’t see it as being ‘tricked’ into thinking they are. So, why should contouring be any different? It’s make up, it’s a statement, it’s fashion after all.

Some men have said that a woman would feel ‘deceived’ if they started doing the same thing, making them appear as if they have a more defined jaw line, a narrow nose, or no imperfections at all. Regardless of what you thought about the person. They feel that women see them for who they are so why can’t they get the same in return? They’re right in that they should know what the person looks like and see their true beauty but appearance shouldn’t be a deciding factor of whether you choose to be with someone.

But historically – woman have always used make up as a means of making themselves more attractive to those they’re trying to meet. Cleopatra? With makeup, a woman can present all the alluring traits men find attractive, high cheekbones, plump lips, flushed cheeks. Everything deemed beautiful in society. However, makeup is just one of the masks people wear, and the most common; it’s not part of us, it doesn’t define us, and it’s important to remember that. If it’s a way to make you feel good about yourself than I’m all for that, but if it’s just a way to get attention then I don’t see the argument.

It all comes down to what you as an individual deem as authentic. If you want to see a woman’s imperfections (because we all have them) or want to know what’s real, then yes, it can be a form of deception. There is nothing wrong with playing dress up now and again, but when do you stop?  However, If you embrace the less natural look, then you’ll prefer a woman as shown in the picture on the right.

Make up isn’t used for your own personal pleasure anymore; many women use it as a way to attract others, platonically or sexually. It’s used to draw people in, deceitful? Maybe, but the real question is this: Do people have an obligation to present themselves authentically (in appearance) to someone they are trying to attract? Or maybe if we weren’t living in such a judgemental and superficial world then people would be more comfortable in their own skin.

What do you think? Is it misleading?

#MondayMotivation – Knowing the art of love

I found someone who was brave enough to enter my storm. Someone who no matter how much it rained and how big the waves were he still managed to find the calm. Love guides you to your missing piece much like the ocean finds the shore. The sun will always set just as it will rise each morning, the heart is much the same, it has its destiny – it will always lead you to the person youre supposed to be with and nothing can come in between that. Life creates a balance of happiness and sadness – its how you handle the sadness that determines your strength. Love does the same. There is happiness and there is sadness, but the true importance lies in how you deal with both. How you fight through the storm to get to the beautiful blue sky that will always appear. Love is an amazing feeling, a tornado of emotions – it can be beautiful but ugly, strong but deadly and loving but hurtful all at the same time. If you’re lucky enough to find someone who will stick by your side, support you, put you first, know your insecurities and lift you back up, then you can never truly be unhappy.

The art of life is knowing the beauty of love. They say you can’t choose your family, but my family is him. summer_love_wallpaper_rjtz3