Just because you’re married, you’re under no obligation to be emotionally abused by toxic people. If someone gets bullied, you would tell them to distance themselves from that person. If someone gets treated with no respect, you would tell them they deserve better. If someone gets verbally attacked by not just one person, but a group, you would tell them to separate themselves as far as possible from those people and the situation. Just because she is your mother in law, that doesn’t mean you need to tolerate a hurtful relationship with a cold-hearted person. She is not your marriage. She doesn’t define who you are and she sure as hell can’t make you feel worthless.
If you could tell your mother-in-law one thing, what would it be?
Dear mother-in-law, thanks for reminding me that I am a strong person and will never be broken by your words.
The majority of the time the way someone looks is what attracts us. That’s how it usually starts. No matter how much we argue this and disagree, deep down we know, it’s how it starts. But looks fade, it can only attract us to someone for so long. If the attraction is only based on appearance then sometimes we become so numb that eventually we are left with, nothing. Looks don’t touch our hearts or move our soul, so eventually that attraction fizzles away. However, a kind heart, a good conversationalist and an ability to make you laugh, now that’s something that attracts more than the eyes. Their looks catch your attention but their personality, oh their personality lights a fire deep within you that burns for a lifetime.
– Aida M.
We poses the ability to be who we choose to be, to love whom we desire to love, to learn all that we are capable of learning and to create from the wildest of our imaginations to the deepest of our conscious dreams. We are our own worst prison, trapped in our own fears that keep us from achieving what we are destined to achieve. If we do not let our fears destroy us, then we can forever be free.
– Aida M.
We live in an age where people make it impossible for woman, men and anyone to feel comfortable with who they are and to embrace themselves fully. The media has always objectified the female body, women have always been exploited as ‘sexual objectives’ but now social media is doing it too. All we see everywhere are naked images, you don’t even have to open a Playboy to see provocative poses and womanly bits. Just go on Facebook and Instagram! This has just opened doors for more and more negativity but also insecurity.
The negative side of this is people, with their stupid, hurthful comments about other people’s weight and how someone looks is unjustifiable and unpeasent to hear. Body shaming is not right, hiding behind a computer and writing horrible things about someone’s appearance is a cowardly and pathetic thing to do. Talking about a woman’s body as if it is on display – objectifying each curve, each imperfection and each edge of her body as if any woman needs someone else’s approval or opinion is completely unnecessary. Therefore, loving yourself is beautiful, focusing on yourself and not on other people’s comments and unrealistic expectations is the sexiest thing a woman can do. If we spend our lives trying to live up to an image, a representation or an opinion of what makes someone beautiful, than we will live our whole lives in darkness. Constantly wondering why we don’t look a certain way and why we don’t fit into this Instagram ‘beauty bubble.’ Eventually it will keep dragging us down till we lose sight of what in fact was most beautiful about us in the first place. What makes us different from each other is what makes us most beautiful. However, the one thing that I find most degrading and disturbing is knowing it is not only men that are objectifying women, it’s women doing it to each other. Instead of uniting and celebrating one another, we have entered into a society where women compete and destroy each other’s confidence. Labels and comparisons need to stop. Is there any wonder children are growing up in a world filled with false images of what it is to be a woman? One thing to remember is, why would you want to be someone else, when you can be yourself!