Too fake to be real: Is contouring misleading to men

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These two photo’s posted on instagram collected a lot of likes but also hateful comments, many of them about the perception of female beauty. In the before shot, the girls are make up free. You can see the differences in their face shape, eyebrows, nose and cheek bones. In the makeup shot everything is more enhanced. The difference is so great, that in fact, many have commented they feel ‘tricked’, not just by those girls but by many women who wear ‘too much make up’ or use contouring as a way to change their features.

Again and again, commenter’s have stated about both girls that “she looks like a different person.” And a statement like that – especially when talking about beauty – has a weird impact on what is actually seen as beautiful or attractive. To me, they look beautiful either way, with or without all that make up. It’s a real test to our society in fact, if a man see’s a woman in full make up and finds her attractive, then see’s her as she is naturally and doesn’t find her attractive, does that say more about him as a person or more about ‘society’s views on beauty.

Some have even said that this can even be deemed as deceitful. That a woman is hiding her true self underneath all that make up. That she is not just enhancing her natural beauty but completely changing it. I agree to a certain point, yes contouring can change your appearance and features and a woman should flaunt what she already has and not hide it but i don’t think it’s deceitful. That’s a strong word. If you think about it, make up is fashion, it evolves, a woman wearing blue eye shadow or bright red lipstick doesn’t suggest the obligation to present ones ‘real self’ but more of a statement of fashion. So is that deceiving? Her eye lids are not actually blue and her lips are not that red but we don’t see it as being ‘tricked’ into thinking they are. So, why should contouring be any different? It’s make up, it’s a statement, it’s fashion after all.

Some men have said that a woman would feel ‘deceived’ if they started doing the same thing, making them appear as if they have a more defined jaw line, a narrow nose, or no imperfections at all. Regardless of what you thought about the person. They feel that women see them for who they are so why can’t they get the same in return? They’re right in that they should know what the person looks like and see their true beauty but appearance shouldn’t be a deciding factor of whether you choose to be with someone.

But historically – woman have always used make up as a means of making themselves more attractive to those they’re trying to meet. Cleopatra? With makeup, a woman can present all the alluring traits men find attractive, high cheekbones, plump lips, flushed cheeks. Everything deemed beautiful in society. However, makeup is just one of the masks people wear, and the most common; it’s not part of us, it doesn’t define us, and it’s important to remember that. If it’s a way to make you feel good about yourself than I’m all for that, but if it’s just a way to get attention then I don’t see the argument.

It all comes down to what you as an individual deem as authentic. If you want to see a woman’s imperfections (because we all have them) or want to know what’s real, then yes, it can be a form of deception. There is nothing wrong with playing dress up now and again, but when do you stop?  However, If you embrace the less natural look, then you’ll prefer a woman as shown in the picture on the right.

Make up isn’t used for your own personal pleasure anymore; many women use it as a way to attract others, platonically or sexually. It’s used to draw people in, deceitful? Maybe, but the real question is this: Do people have an obligation to present themselves authentically (in appearance) to someone they are trying to attract? Or maybe if we weren’t living in such a judgemental and superficial world then people would be more comfortable in their own skin.

What do you think? Is it misleading?

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