The more one lusts; the less one loves

Why do people fall out of love just as quickly as they fall in love? Maybe it’s just this generation, but seems like people just don’t put the effort in anymore, and like magic the whole relationship disappears with no struggle to keep it together. Therefore, whats left is a destruction, nothing but a memory blowing away in the wind.

They say love conquers all, but if that was true then love would defeat any obstacle that stands in its way. Love would beat the odds for two souls doing all they can to become one. Love would be enough to keep people together no matter what storm they may face. However, if love really did conquer all then how could the thought of love for many be more important then actually being in love itself? Where the whole relationship becomes nothing more than a reflection of something it could have been. If a love is worth throwing away after years of being together then what chance is there for a happy ending? Yes relationships are hard, yes they need work but what most people neglect is to realise it takes time. Absence diminishes only small loves, not true love.

But how do you know when its over? When you’ve put more effort in trying then the other person or perhaps when you’re more in love with the memories then the person standing right in front of you? Either way it seems we are looking for something that doesn’t exist, a love that could never happen. Maybe that is the reason why we give up so quickly and maybe that is the reason why we are such an impatient generation. We want and we want but we forget what we truly need and deserve. A representation of true love seems as adequate as the love itself.

Therefore, what I am still trying to figure out is maybe we don’t actually fall out of love but merely lose sight of why we fell in love in the first place. True love is eternal, and if you are blessed enough to experience it then it could never truly depart. How could it, if you look at the word eternal itself its a forever feeling. So, maybe our memories become nothing more then ghosts that haunt us beautifully whenever the thought of our past is brought up. But one thing is evident, the fear of not experiencing love is far more terrifying than keeping your heart locked up everytime the possibility is right in front of you.

“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.” – plato


3 thoughts on “The more one lusts; the less one loves

  1. You touched on it, the problem with our generation, I’m guessing you’re a 90’s baby, seeing how young you look, is our want for instant gratification. When sex became so easy to find, love became much harder to find. Good writing, minor errors, but good product, overall 😊

    • Thank you for your comment 🙂 I am a 90’s baby which is probably the reason I feel this generation is very inpatient and as you mentioned we have a want for instant gratification. I look at the older generation and it makes me think we are missing out on a lot of the experiences they had when they were younger. We are living in a social media bubble where love is fabricated and has almost become impossible to find and keep.

      • We are very impatient, we’re almost afraid to put in the time, because we know if we fail all that time was wasted. Missing out? Give me an example, I’m always wondering what it’d be like to grow up in the generation, before ours, back when hair bands were a big deal lol. I agree, nowadays you can’t get real emotion from somebody, our emotions have been narrowed down to abbreviations or pixelated smiley faces. It’s extremely hard to find, guess that’s why they say love is an elusive creature, the more you look for it, the more it evades you and when you do find it, it’s typically not the right time. Keep looking, don’t turn into that female who’s scared of getting hurt, we both know what we want, so find it and never settle :).

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